Domestic Violence - A suffering that can destroy the whole life. In simple words, the work done by another person or the pain given to you, which gives you a lot of trouble, which can end your whole life. Domestic violence includes domestic abuse, physical and mental abuse, psychological abuse, abuse, financial abuse, taunting, etc. Legally speaking, domestic violence is an act that harms the mental or physical health of any person i.e. woman, child, elderly, transgender or man. Domestic violence is a major problem not only in developing countries but also in developed countries. We all understand that domestic violence is limited only to small villages, towns, illiterate people, goons, mawalis, but this is not the truth. The truth is that it is alive in every household, whether it is a small village or a big one. Larger than a city or metropolis, illiterate or in the house of the wise. Today, one complaint against domestic violence is registered every five minutes in India. If we talk about the violence that is not registered, then their figure will be manifold. Women, the elderly, transgender, and children are the most victims of it, but this does not mean that men are not victims of it. Sometimes cases of domestic violence against men have also been registered.

There can be many reasons for domestic violence and they all depend on the gender, ability and mentality of the perpetrator and the victim. As women and children, in general, are found mostly victims of domestic violence because they are considered to be mentally and physically weak. The most common causes of violence after marriage are not satisfied with the dowry, sexual relations, refusal to take care of in-laws, non-compliance with tradition, etc. The reasons for violence against men are external relations, not enough income, not helping in the care of children, not fulfilling the responsibility of the house completely, ignoring the opinion of the wife, physical weakness, etc. The main reasons for violence against children are - not studying, not being able to compete with the children of their class in studies, not following the orders of the parents, quarreling with the members of the household and there are many other reasons due to which children are exploited. are victims of. Older people are usually victims of violence because of their old age expenses and their hesitation or inability to pay for their children. This is the only reason, have you ever thought about what is their effect, let's read a little.

My thought-
Many high society women also wear dark glasses in their eyes only so that they can hide the scars on their eyes and the tears buried in their eyes. Middle-class women also apply makeup on their faces only so that they can hide the wound lying on their faces. But we all do not see all this in our society because we do not want to see all this. If someone is shouting in the neighborhood and the sound of beating is coming, then you know what we do? We pick up the remote of our TV and turn up the sound of our TV. When a daughter gets a call from her in-laws' house and she talks to her parents crying, do you know what the parents ask? Daughter, you are happy, are you not everything is going well and the daughter silently says yes. After beating her mind, she says yes and we agree. Our mind is saying that it is wrong but we have to believe that's why we agree. Parents have to believe that they have chosen a perfect husband for their daughter and they believe the same.

We have made domestic violence so common in society, that even if a husband raises his hand or shouts at his wife, he raises his hand in public places or even in a closed room, we still consider him a good husband. But when this thing progresses beyond the slap, then that girl calls her house, but does not say anything, do you know why? Because she knows she won't get any help if anything she will get, just a long speech, a big talk - on his wife's generosity, her tolerance, her ability to forgive by accepting everything. Is.
There may be some other person who commits domestic violence but we are all responsible for them, me, you, this society, this whole world, all of us because we all tolerate it. This society sees that the house which raised that woman or every victim with full care when she goes to another house or anywhere else with such treatment. This is the reason why the victim wants to go far away from his family, from his home, from his siblings, from his friends, even from himself. Any person needs hope, strength is needed to fight, and when this happens to someone then that strength and hope end. Have you ever thought that you and I are reading this, even though we are reading this, there is so much pain in the heart, so imagine what would have happened to the person with whom such a thing happened!


How, how, how, how....... how? How can one treat someone like this, oh no one should treat an animal like this, oh with whom he has taken seven rounds, who has promised to protect, who has taken a promise to support him in sorrow or happiness, How can someone misbehave with a husband/wife with whom you have taken a promise to walk? If there is a fight between husband and wife in the house and both of them slap each other Even if they don't kill, but still at that time their self-esteem, their self-respect, their existence gets deeply hurt. But still, this society says oh! no problem, sometimes they raise their hands, sometimes they kill them with the belt, but the husband comes back home at night, the wife cooks food. Oh, the deepest wounds are those which are not visible, those which fall in the mind of a person and do not heal. Why do people not understand that like the body, the mind is also injured, it also needs treatment, for that too, one should go to the doctor. These wounds are so big that they cannot be healed in one go, oh, the wounds made of sesame seeds will be filled with sesame seeds, will they not? I was watching TV one day and told that a doctor did an experiment on water, he took two bottles, filled both of them with water, he shouted very loudly on one bottle, stirred a lot and talked very lovingly with the other bottle and Then keep both the bottles in a cool place to freeze. When the water in both the bottles was frozen, he saw that the bottle on which he shouted had become small pieces of ice, but the bottle with which he had spoken with love was completely frozen. There were no snowflakes in it. It means that when thoughts and words have such a profound effect on water, then imagine how much effect it must have on the mind.
Every person gets hurt at least once in his life, whether it is the husband getting tired of work and shouting at the wife or the wife taking out the irritability of the house on her husband. After all, is it so important to take out anger on someone? Can a problem not be solved by keeping calm, by keeping quiet? After all, how long will this last? This will continue till we change ourselves. I know that this violence is more on women but it happens on men too, so here I have told about both, not about anyone.


This is wrong, absolutely wrong and it will not change until we change ourselves, so if next time there is a sound of beating or screaming in your neighbourhood, do not raise the sound of the TV, go to that house knock on the door and stop, if you are in your house, raise your voice, complain but stop it because it is not a problem of anyone or it is not a subject of anyone, it is the problem of all of us and we all have to find a solution together if I say this We all have to fight this together. I don't think there is any other way to end it.

          

             “Don’t judge yourself by what.                                            others did to you.”               

                              — Cody Kennedy


        Well, these were my thoughts on domestic violence, now what are your views, please let me know by commenting.